Random Stuff About Me

I swiped this from #millenniallifecrisis, who swiped it from something called “Vogue’s 73 Questions”. I thought it had some fun and interesting questions, so I decided to do it myself.

So here’s mine:

  1. What was the name of the first person you ever had a crush on? Why did you like them? Jonathan Brandis. Honestly? I never learned or knew a damn thing about the actor, but I was totally enamored with his character Lucas on SeaQuest DSV. Not only was he so very cute, but smart and empathetic as well. He’s also the only celebrity crush I’ve ever had.
  2. What is one thing you regret having done or not done in your life? Getting my degree. That said, I’m not entirely sure why I regret this when I’m happy with my life the way it is and wouldn’t be using it anyway. It just seems like a waste that all that time , effort, and money that didn’t come to any sort of fruition.
  3. Which parent do you identify with the most? I used to think my mother, but as I’ve gotten older and gotten to know my mother more and more after my father’s death, I’ve come to realize that I take after my father. The need for balance. The moral compass. I may not agree with his ideas and behavior on many things, but beneath those differences, there is a similar stubborn foundation.
  4. What do you think you cook or bake the best? Teriyaki sauce. Rice.
  5. If you could change your first name what would it be? Leaf.
  6. Can you hula hoop? I have no idea. I’ve never tried.
  7. What embarrasses you the most in front of other people? When they cringe at my facial scar. I can handle the staring, but it bothers me when someone shirks from it, cringes, or grimaces.
  8. Have you considered running for president? HELL no.  
  9. If you had to choose one thing you were most passionate about, what would it be and why? Balance. With creativity coming in at a very close second.
  10. Who are you most envious of—real or fictional—and why? I don’t really envy other people. Situations, sometimes. But not people.
  11. Where is the most beautiful place on earth and why? Northwestern Washington state. You have mountains, lakes, rivers, rainforests, beaches, the ocean and lots of inlets. Lots of green, lots of water, lots of nature, and lots of rain.
  12. Are ghosts real? Yes. 
  13. Are aliens real? Yes. It is statistically impossible that they don’t exist. Whether or not they fly space ships or are intelligent (by human standards)? That’s debatable.
  14. How old is the most expired item in your fridge? Good thing you asked about the fridge and not the freezer. The most expired item in my fridge is a tub of gochujang that expired in Oct 2018. 
  15. What are your favorite style of underwear? Boxer briefs.
  16. What’s the saddest song you’ve ever heard? Mad World by Gary Jules and Michael Andrews. 
  17. How about the sweetest song? I Will Follow You Into The Dark by Death Cab For Cutie. 
  18. Do you know how to play dominoes? I do not.
  19. What’s under your bed? Boxes of antique dishes. 
  20. Have you ever prank called someone? I don’t think so. 
  21. 100 kittens or 3 baby sloths? If it means I have to take care of them? Sloths. 100 vs 3… it’s all in the math. 
  22. Are you proud of what you’re doing with your heart and time right now? I am proud that my heart belongs to Gideon. I’m happy with how I spend most of my time.
  23. Why or why not? As for my time… I guess I could be doing more good for myself and others, but I could be doing a hell of a lot less good too. It’s a happy medium. As for Gideon… he’s amazing. Top to bottom, inside and out.
  24. How many bones have you broken? I’ve lost count, although to be fair I’ve ‘broken’ more joints than I have bones.
  25. Have you ever won anything? Big or small? I won $15 bucks at the casino yesterday.
  26. If you could buy one material thing, and money was not an issue, what would it be? A larger home (or the condo next door and renovate it and mine into one big condo). 
  27. What’s your favorite movie from your childhood? Escape to Witch Mountain
  28. What food will you absolutely not, under any circumstances, eat? Sauerkraut.
  29. What’s the best way to comfort you when you’re having a really terrible day? Cuddles from my cat Luna and time with Gideon.
  30. Has anything/anyone every saved your life before? Yes.  
  31. Would you ever adopt a child? Under the right circumstances… yes. 
  32. What is one thing you’re embarrassed to admit you want to try? I can’t think of anything.
  33. If you were a cake which cake would you be? Raspberry vanilla swirl.
  34. What is the most important material possession you have and why? Pluto (stuffed dog). 
  35. What is the most important memory you have and why? My sister and I comforting each other after our first day of school. It had been a crappy experience for both of us.
  36. When was the last time you cried? Three days ago.
  37. How old was your mother when she had you? 26
  38. Which famous person would you like to be BFFs with? I can’t think of anyone. Fame really isn’t something I’m interested in being around. I guess I’d be open to a famous friend if I could be that secret refuge of normalcy for them, but otherwise? No thank you.
  39. Is there something you wish you had said sorry for but never did? I’m sure there are plenty of things I’d feel that way about if I could remember any of them.
  40. Have you been on your first date? Define “date”. *LOL* I have never been out on a “traditional date” (at least, not that I’m aware of) with the intention of it going anywhere besides a one night stand.
  41. If someone wanted to really understand you, what would they read, watch, and listen to? I think they could get a pretty good idea of me from my literary RP with Gideon, maybe with additional access to my IM history.
  42. Have you ever found a writer who thinks just like you? if so, who? Not entirely, no. Gid and I do have a good amount of synchronicity tho. And of course I run across writers now and then that I can agree with on certain topics or ideas.
  43. If you could, would you take back your last kiss? Hell no. I would never take back any kiss I’ve given to him.
  44. Who would you like to see in concert? I’m not a concert person. Too loud and chaotic.
  45. What was the last concert you saw? Dave Matthews Band
  46. What was the last thing that made you laugh? A story about a friend of mine on a camping trip. 
  47. What are you craving right now? Ice cream.
  48. Have you ever been cheated on? No
  49. Do you believe in true love? Yes. 
  50. Favorite weather? Overcast and rainy… aka. gray days.
  51. Do you want to get married? Not really.
  52. What’s your favorite pasta dish? Chicken Florentine lasagna. 
  53. What color do you really want to dye your hair? I don’t.
  54. Are you a morning person? Hell no. 
  55. Tell us a story of something that happened to you after 3AM when you were with friends. Jer snores like a freight train when he’s drunk and I once used his gaping, snoring maw as target practice for my water pistol.
  56. Who was the last person you gazed at the stars with? My sister. 
  57. What was your biggest fear as a kid? is it the same today? Spiders. And hell yes. 
  58. Think of a person. What song do you associate with them? I Will Possess Your Heart by Death Cab For Cutie
  59. What are some of your worst habits? Self-judgment and self-recrimination.
  60. Describe a good friend of yours without using their name or gendered pronouns. Very submissive and yet really wants to be seen by others (read everyone) as more dominant than they really are. Has a good heart, but is too much of a self-absorbed ass.
  61. Is there anything you should be doing right now but aren’t? Fixing my mother’s CD burner drive on her PC.
  62. What’s one of the cutest things someone has ever done for you? Gideon enjoyed watching me splurge on a tarot deck the other day. I count this as done -for- me because his enjoyment made me feel good when he shared how he felt about it with me.
  63. Are you planning on getting tattoos? I have considered a small semicolon a few times, but no.
  64. List some songs that resonate to your soul whenever you hear them. The songs previously mentioned in this survey. Suicide is Painless by Johnny Mandel (music) and Michael Altman (lyrics). Knights In White Satin by the Moody Blues. One by Three Dog Night. Singularity by BTS. Now Is Good by Kim JaeJeong. I could go on for a long ass time on this one.
  65. If you were presented with two buttons, one that allows you to go 5 years into the past, the other 5 years into the future, which one would you press? Neither. There is nothing I would change, and I have no interest in looking ahead.
  66. What do you do when you’re sad? Sleep
  67. What are some things you do when you can’t sleep? Work on jewelry projects. Play games on my phone. Masturbate.
  68. Who is the last person you told a secret to? Gideon
  69. What’s the best piece of advice you ever received? Go read “The Dash” by Linda Ellis.
  70. What’s your favorite food? Vanilla Orange Swirl ice cream with Cheetos Puffs
  71. What’s your secret dream? Financial freedom.
  72. Do you have trust issues? Yes.
  73. Do you believe in soulmates? I didn’t until I met Gideon. Now? Yes.

Seeking Emotional Stability

Today’s meditation was done in a quiet room at Ms B’s and… I almost fell asleep. (Oops!)

The meditation today was fourteen minutes and thirty seven seconds, and focused addiction to thought.

That is, how we try to always give each thought that wanders through our head “it’s due” rather than sometimes just letting them go. This is especially relevant and noticeable during meditation, as it is during this time when the thoughts that intrude can be like the temptation of a curious path in the forest that leads away from the one you are already on.

People (myself included) follow their thoughts without even realizing it, addicted to the random paths, to fixing or resolving, to… thinking. Today’s meditation brings this tendency to light as a reminder that during one’s meditation practice (and other times when overwhelmed) setting aside thoughts, rather than following them, is healthy and beneficial.

The first card in today’s draw was the Six of Hearts. Hearts is a suit seated in emotions, family, relationships, and creativity. The six in this suit represents seeking answers and truths.

The second card in today’s draw is the Four of Hearts. This card…. is you. It is an indication of stability and shelter. Comfort. Home.

The cards are telling me that this lost and seeking feeling in my gut this morning is all about you. It’s time to come home. To my shelter. To my anchor. To you.

The cards are directing me to you.

Sensory Overload

I think I’ve figured it out. Or at least perhaps a part of it.

Whenever I come here to visit my mother, I have a negative reaction to the time here. It’s not anything she says to me. After all, she has the same judgmental litany of complaints to share whether it’s in person or over the phone.

It’s not the memories of Dad, or the unpleasant memories of living in this house, either. Yes, they are all there, and yes, sometimes they affect me… but something in this house has in the last handful of years caused my visits here to turn even more negative than normal.

And… I think I figured it out.

It’s the noise.

It’s the constant incessant noise. The floors are wood, and since Dad died, Mother doesn’t require the removal of shoes in the house anymore. The living room has a high ceiling and a few years ago, she had all the carpet removed and wood flooring installed.

The TV is always on. Even when it’s not, every step, every movement, every voice, every SOUND is amplified and echoes. There’s no softness to absorb any of it, as much of the wall art and softer furnishings have been sold off or given away since Dad’s death.

It’s hollow and loud. Even when closed off in a different room, you can hear everything, just at a lower decibel.

It is a constant barrage on the senses… all of the senses, in my case. Or, well, four out of five at any rate.

It’s not just exhausting, or irritating, but feels like some insidious sort of violence, secret and subtle that works it’s way in and leaves you raw.


Today’s meditation was 14 minutes and 35 seconds and focused on compassion.

The meditation was about not just creating compassion and a sense of non-judgment and one’s practice during meditation, but also in one’s life as a whole.

This is something that I personally struggle with as I constantly feel that I am monitoring myself, and judging myself in order to improve upon myself and my actions from day today, our tower, and minute to minute.

When it comes to myself, I’m a harsh taskmaster. Today’s meditation is a reminder that I need to be a little bit kinder and more compassionate to myself.

When reading from a playing card deck, it is a different kind of conversation than when using a tarot deck.

The way I was taught, the least amount of cards needed for a reading with a playing card deck is two (as opposed to one, when using a tarot deck).

The first card indicates the subject while the second card is for guidance.

The first card in today’s draw is the Queen of Diamonds. Diamonds indicate the area of money, resources, power, education, or success. The Queen of this suit represents an energy, personality, or person related to those topics.

The second card in today’s draw is the Queen of Hearts. Hearts deal with the areas of emotions, family, relationships. The Queen in this suit represents a mothering, empathetic, and healing energy.

I believe that this reading is a direct reflection on yesterday’s, where I wasn’t being quite so kind to myself concerning my finances, and my current financial situation.

The cards are telling me that as harsh as I was about my spending, I also need to be kind to myself and forgiving.

I haven’t broken the bank. I’m not destitute. I’m not going to be losing my home, or even miss mortgage payment or fall behind on my bills. So it’s time to be forgiving and cut myself a little slack for my recent past behavior in this area.