Finding the Positive for July 1 – 3

Fairy Herbal Deck, Puppy Garden Tarot, Botanical Blessings Oracle, and It’s Going To Be Okay 2024 Day-to-day Calendar By Kate Allan

July 1 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was ten minutes long and was one of the #DailyCalm sessions from the Calm app.

The session’s topic for the day was about interconectedness, and used the example of a blueberry where when you hold the berry in your hand you look back on how it came to be there from the growers to the planters, the cows that provided manure, the plants that the cows ate, etc.  The purpose of the session was to bring to light how looking at the complexities of intercontectedness of just a single blueberry, we see just how interconnected we are with the world around us.

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Today’s card is the Dandelion card combined with the affirmation “There’s no need to be so hard on yourself; you’re managing as best as you can.”

Dandelions are, in my opinion, one of the most under appreciated plants in the world. People by the droves seek to kill them, banishing them from their lawns, driveways, and roadsides.  And yet, they are safely edible, an antioxidant, and an immune booster.  They are also used to detoxify the liver and gallbladder, as well as assist kidney function.

These flowers are chock full of vitamins A, B, C, and D as well as iron, potassium, and zinc. All parts of the plants have uses from the leaves being added to salads and sandwiches, the roots used as coffee substitutes and for tea, and even the flowers, which are used in making wine.

Combined with the affirmation for the day, this card is a reminder that there are helpers even in the most surprising of places. Who would think that a weed in the grass could do so much, after all.  Joined together, today’s affirmation and card are a reminder that you don’t have to do everything all on your own.  You don’t have to carry all the responsibility yourself.  Look to those in the wings for help instead of pushing yourself ever harder with unreasonable expectations.

DECK USED: FAIRY HERBAL DECK AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

July 2 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the Two of Wands combined with the affirmation “It’s neat how you showing up makes everything better.”

I used to know a guy in school back when I was… well, from the time my parents moved out west when I was 10 until I graduated, so for quite a few years.  He used to get picked on a -lot- in school, and I could never figure out why. (It turns out it was because his sister was a couple grades above him and extremely popular, and she had all her friends picking on him… but I didn’t realize that until recently.)

Anyway, I used to let him hang around with me at school and sometimes after school when I’d play in the woods or whatever (my family’s home wasn’t conducive to visitors).  I didn’t really think much of it, or of them, at the time.  They were just always around, asking questions and tagging along. After I left? I didn’t really think about them much either, other than to wonder occasionally how they were doing.

And then, they contacted me the other day on social media.  In a DM, they asked if I was “real name” from “where I grew up”.  If they hadn’t identified themselves as well? I would have freaked out.  (I’ve had a few stalker issues over the years.) Instead, I knew who they were and said hi.  We’ve been talking a bit off and on since.

Apparently, in their words, I have been an inspiration to them throughout their entire life (the past 20 years), and they have always wanted to get back in contact so that he could show me all he’s accomplished and be proud of him.  It’s something he’s said multiple times, and it took me by surprise.   I have -no- idea  how I inspired him so much.  I have -no- idea why he feels that me being proud of him is the gold tier achievement of his life (which I am, incidentally, proud of him for all he’s accomplished.)

I had… no idea that I was so liked and admired by… well, anyone at all.

Today’s cards remind me of this.  They speak of making an impression on others that we ourselves are not aware of.  They speak of inspiring others through out presence alone.   They say…. never forget that there are people out there that admire you that you don’t even know about, and that see you as a guiding light in their own lives.  You are always wanted…. even on the days or weeks or years that it doesn’t feel like it.

DECK USED: PUPPY GARDEN MINI TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

July 3 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was just over ten minutes long, and was one of the #DailyCalm sessions from the Calm app.   The session today was about transforming anger into something softer and gentler.

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Today’s card is the Dill card combined with the affirmation “Tomorrow hasn’t come, yesterday is done, just get yourself through today.”

Dill (aka. dill weed) is an herb that is a good source of vitamins A and C, as well as calcium and iron, and it’s packed with flavonoids that have been shown to help reduce the risk of heart disease and stroke. It has also been observed to have properties that help in the prevention and control of type2 diabetes and help control high cholesterol.

What I personally know dill best for, though, is it’s ability to help ease colic in infants, digestive issues, and bad breath. These are the uses that I grew up associating with dill, and they speak of a calming quality.  A quality that lends to easing one’s anger, calming down, and cooling off.  It’s interesting that this was the card pulled today, considering today’s meditation was about this same topic.

Combined with the affirmation for today, the Dill card is a reminder that sometimes we need to focus just on the here and now. It can’t always be about what comes next, preparing for the future, and looking ahead.  It can’t all be about what we’ve done or not done, either.  Sometimes, especially during times of recovery?  Being in the present needs to be enough.

DECK USED: BOTANICAL BLESSINGS ORACLE AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

Finding the Positive for June 28 – 30

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June 28 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was twelve minutes long, and was one of the #DailyTrip sessions from the Calm app.

The session spoke about how we are often much harder on ourselves than we are on others, and how it’s important to check in on that tendency now and then and turn things around.  How giving ourselves a bit of understanding and compassion can go a long way to healing internal wounds both self-inflicted as well as inflicted by others.

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Today’s card is the Five of Wands combined with the affirmation “You don’t have to be related to be a family.”

Conflict happens.  It happens between friends, family, strangers, acquaintances… it just happens and its a part of life. The cards for today remind is that it’s important to remember that it doesn’t have to be the end of the world when it comes into our relationships with others.

Look… conflict in family goes hand in hand. Whether that family is by blood or through choices on who you want to surround yourself with, there’s always going to be times when the members involved butt heads with each other.  It’s a part of life and being close with others while having our own personal values and personalities.

Don’t let momentary conflicts tear apart the family you’ve built for yourself.

DECK USED: TRASH PANDA TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

June 29 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the Temperance card combined with the affirmation “Struggling doesn’t mean you are a broken person. It means you’re the main character who is playing life on hard mode.”

It’s time to ease back off that “hard mode” setting for a bit.  Temperance is all about moderation and taking things at a more temperate pace.  Don’t allow yourself to get overwhelmed and take a step back, let yourself take things a bit slower for a bit, and smell the roses.

Granted, right now I can’t personally smell the roses, as I’m in the middle of battling a summer cold, but this message is all the more important in this particular instance.  Rest is needed.  Stop worrying about all the things that need to be done and beating yourself up over them not getting done.  It’s okay to take your fever reducer and burrow under a pillow right now.

DECK USED: under the oak tarot AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

June 30 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s cards are the Six of Pentacles combined with the Horizon card, which is about what you know and what you don’t, and how we can balance the two.

“Give yourself permission to dwell in the mystery of what you absolutely cannot be certain of and give yourself comfort in what you know to be true.” I really like this quote from the back of the Horizon card.

In an oracle reading I did recently, it was pointed out that I have a habit of turning a dumpster fire of uncertainty into a forest fire of fear. Today’s cards are a reminder that there is balance, even in moments of chaos and uncertainty.

  Those stable and secure parts of your life will help to contain the chaos, compartmentalizing it into a smaller area so that it cannot spread over the entirety of your life.  The cards here are an encouragement to see beyond the panic of those moments of uncertainty,  understand that it is not taking over your life, and acknowledge where stability still lies so that you can lean into it for a better sense of security.

DECK USED: I AM THE ARTIST TAROT AND LOOK UP LOOK IN CARDS BY MARI ANDREW

Finding the Positive for June 25 – 27

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June 25 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is a repeat of the Knight of Pentacles combined with the affirmation “It’s okay to just do what I can today. It’s enough.”

If, yesterday, you struggled to be understanding about your limitations and the slow speed of your progress?  Here is a repeat opportunity to give yourself a break and lower your expectations to manageable levels.

These cards are a reminder that even small steps forward are still steps in the right direction.  Don’t worry about how long it’s going to take you to get there, but instead focus on those small steps and celebrate each one as its own accomplishment. The only evil taskmaster is the one in your head, and they need to be put in their place.  You can do that by being more generous to yourself and more understanding of whatever pace you need to take on the path to your goals.

DECK USED: TAROT OF THE MAGICAL FOREST AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

June 26 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the King of Cups combined with the affirmation “I don’t know where I’m headed, but I can figure it out when I get there.”

These cards are a reminder of the joy that comes from “winging it”.

Gideon and I spend a lot of time doing collaborative storytelling (written roleplay).  A lot of our characters and stories aren’t with an end in sight.  It’s just time spent together enjoying each other’s company over the 2500-ish miles that separate the two of us.  It’s about spending time rather than accomplishing any particular goal, and this is the kind of thing today’s cards are about.

These cards ask us to look at where in life are you forcing goals into a situation or activity where just enjoying should be enough?  How can we change this into a more “smell the roses” activity instead of something to plow through in order to get to something else down the line?

DECK USED: ENCHANTED REALMS TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

June 27 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the Three of Wands combined with the affirmation “I know its hard to cope, but here’s a gentle reminder that things usually go better than you predict.”

The message here is that the negative inner narrative in your head is not reality. Try anyway.  Even when it tells you that it won’t work or the world sucks.  Just try anyway.

It can be really hard to set out on a project or goal when you feel beaten down by the world.  Even harder when the one doing the worst of the abuse is your own mind.  It’s important to remember, though, that if you aren’t willing to take chances, there’s no rewards to be had.  So take a chance… and just try.

DECK USED: MIBRAMIG TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

When Things Go Right… then Horribly Wrong

I have a pretty massive collection of decks, and most of the time when I’m ordering a new deck? Things go off without a hitch. I’ve ordered from a myriad of sources from publishers (such as Llewellyn, US Games, etc) and indie creators (too many to count) to metaphysical shops, individual sellers on places like Etsy and eBay, and big business booksellers (such as Amazon, Abe Books, Barnes & Noble, etc).

Sometimes there’s shipping delays. Sometimes a hitch happens.

In two specific cases, though? Small hitches became a huge issue, and in both cases I’m pretty sad that I don’t feel safe shopping with them anymore.

The Story of Magick.com

I have been shopping with this site since 2019, and especially so over the past couple of years. They have spectacular deals on decks, and sometimes offer signed copies as well. I love their site, which is easy to navigate, and always seems up to date.

And then 2024 happened.

In early February I placed an order that never arrived. I waited until April, thinking that maybe they were a bit behind. When I checked the tracking number, it said that the label had been purchased, but the package never moved. So, I contacted them at the end of March. They said they’d look into it, and I never heard back. At the end of April, my package showed up, though.

I wrote this off as a hiccup. Every business has them.

Then, my order placed on March 4th (for two decks) went through the same thing. I contacted them through email in May and was told they’d look into it. This time? Not only did I not hear back from them, but the package still never arrived. In early June, I tried to contact them via their support email again. No answer. I have tried multiple times since… and -still- no answer. I tried calling the phone number on their website, which has no human answering the phone no matter what day or time you call, and left a voicemail. Still… no answer. No package. Nada.

On May 10th, thinking this previous issue was on the way to being resolved easily, I had placed another order (for five decks). It is now June 26th and that order still sits in my account unfulfilled.

There are no pre-orders in any of these orders I’ve placed. What had once been a speedy and excellent resource for massmarket decks seems to have gone down hill. I don’t know whats going on there, but it’s pretty clear something is. I have ended up disputing both the last two orders that have not been received with my credit card company. Hopefully I can get my money back.

The Story of Dark Synevyr

We’re going to roll back to 2022 for this one. Or rather, that’s when I finally got it resolved. The purchases actually took place in 2020. Yes… this was a two year ordeal.

I had purchased, over an 8 month period, a total of 20 decks from this seller. In 2020 and early 2021, I tried contacting them through Etsy, which is where my purchases were originally placed and was given no answer. It was beyond Etsy’s order dispute timeline, then their shop closed down, but they were still running their website. SO… I started emailing them and trying to contact them through Instagram.

Throughout 2021 I received no answer to my inquiries. In 2022, I started being given a run around. They asked for the names and dates of each order, and said they were working on fulfillment. Except there was never any sign of fulfillment.

I eventually had a friend that was looking to place a large order with them, and was not worried about the risk involved, that reached out to them and told them she’d place her order IF they did right by me. I managed to get a refund as a result, but the fact it took such measures to get it is a serious issue.

About a year ago, I decided to try and give them a second chance. I found their new shop on Etsy (because at least there, there’s a bit of buyer protection involved) and ordered two decks. Only one arrived. I tried contacting them through Etsy with no reply or response. I finally put through a claim and was refunded for the missing deck, but I never did hear a word from Dark Synevyr about it.

Why This Post?

I think having to dispute the charges brought things to a head where my tolerance is concerned. I got taken by the later two, and had to go through some trouble and stress to get things sorted out. I’m irritated about that, and I’m still going through it where Magick.com is concerned.

So. Reminder… Sometimes a good deal really is too good to be true. Sadly, I seem to be a lesson that I’m meant to learn the hard way.

The thing is? I do enough risk taking with my money on Kickstarter. When ordering from a business, it shouldn’t be this damned hard.

Finding the Positive for June 22 – 24

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June 22 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is The Star card combined with the affirmation “I understand that you feel worried, but you have an amazing track record of surviving crazy times.”

In one of the servers I’m a member of, yesterday’s question of the day is if there is such a thing as “too much positivity”.  The answer to that is absolutely.  Yes.  It’s called Toxic Positivity, and takes optimism and positivity too far, creating unrealistic expectations and ignoring the negative or harmful issues for a pair of “rose colored glasses”.

I worried, when I started doing this daily mental health exercise, that it would become like that.  Toxic and ugly.  Instead, it turns out that it’s just encouraging.  There’s a great deal of negative inner talk that goes on in my head, and this daily “finding the positive” exercise helps balance that out.  It doesn’t take it away, it just makes sure that I -also- see something positive or optimistic instead of only the dark and negative.

I hope others also feel that way about it when they read it.

Today’s cards are about hope, and about trusting that even in the most painful of times that there is an end and a change somewhere ahead in the future.  That it won’t last forever, and that when things are at their roughest?  We don’t need to thrive or succeed… we just need to survive until the tides change.

DECK USED: FRENCH ART NOUVEAU POSTERS TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

June 23 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the Eight of Swords combined with the “View From a Train” card.

The View From a Train card is about that sensation that happens when you are still and something else is moving, and it makes you believe for just a moment that -you- are moving.  Such as when sitting in a stationary train looking out the window and the train beside yours moves… and you think it’s your train moving.

Combined with the Eight of Swords, these cards pose the question… are you actually moving toward your goals and aspirations? Or are you actually standing still and stagnant while the chaos of life around you fools you into thinking you are?

The encouragement here between the interaction of these two cards is to take the time to make clear and quantitative steps towards your goals instead of just assuming that you’re “getting there”.  Open your eyes, take control, and make a conscious decision to act become true movement forward.

DECK USED: DERAKKUSU BAN HIHOU TAROTAND LOOK UP LOOK IN CARDS BY MARI ANDREW

June 24 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the Knight of Pentacles combined with the affirmation “Just try. It’s okay if it’s not as good as yesterday.”

Progress takes time.  Sometimes? We have setbacks along the way, and that’s okay.  As long as we continue to keep our eye on the goal?  We’re going to get there eventually.

Today’s cards are a reminder that it’s impossible to be at our best every single day, and that that’s okay.  It doesn’t mean we’re failing or that we should give up, it just means we need to adjust our expectations of ourselves to fit rather than pushing ourselves so hard that it becomes impossible to meet those expectations at all.

DECK USED: NINE LIVES CAT TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

Finding the Positive for June 19 – 21

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June 19 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the Page of Wands combined with the affirmation “You are not at all a ‘failed project’. You’re just going through a rough time.”

As we go through life, we learn new things, and have to brush up on old things that we once learned and now need to learn again.  Today’s card is a reminder that just because you don’t know something, or need to re-learn something, doesn’t make you a failure.

As long as you are interested enough to put effort into the process of following these moments of inspiration, that is all that matters.  Not how good you are at it, or how quickly you pick it up. Whether or not you are learning, and making sure that you are enjoying the process, are far more important.

DECK USED: FLOATING WORLD TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

June 20 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is the Queen of Pentacles combined with the affirmation “You deserve nice breaks.”

You can’t be the nurturing party all the time. Don’t hover and try to help so much. They need to know that they are expected to do all that they can first before you step in. This attitude will allow you more time to rest without being overwhelmed or needing to be on alert all the time.

DECK USED: METANOIA MARSEILLE AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN

June 21 – Mental Health Card of the Day

Today’s meditation was skipped.

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Today’s card is The Devil combined with the affirmation “You are not a burden; you’re a person with needs, and that’s completely normal.”

It can be tempting to ignore our needs, either through a desire to put other’s needs first, or a compulsion towards self destruction (or many other reasons… those are just the top two that come up for me personally).

Today’s cards are a reminder that your needs are just as valid as anyone else’s, and it’s important to not just put aside time to make sure they are being met by yourself, but to expect others to support you and your needs just as much as you support them and theirs.

A relationship, whether it be family or friend or romantic, is not a relationship if one side is always taking and the other is always giving.  There needs to be a balance of give and take on both sides, otherwise you are abusing yourself or they are taking advantage of you… or both.

DECK USED: FORGOTTEN LEGENDS TAROT AND IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY 2024 DAY-TO-DAY CALENDAR BY KATE ALLAN